Kind or Nice?

Kindness is shared in so many different ways. One thing I’ve noticed about all kind people, though, is that their kindness is consistent. It’s not necessarily perfect, but usually pretty consistent. They don’t play favorites, either. Being kind is just who they are and something they do. Which means that it is both a state of being and an action for them.

So, let us dive in - What is the difference?

When we take a look at kindness, we see that it comes from the heart, and it is inherently a life choice. Kindness is intrinsic in nature which means the person being kind doesn’t need a “reason” to be that way. Whether it is to offer a smile, concern, or assistance, it is provided without agenda, expectation, or wanting a return on the investment. Whereas being kind stems from the vibration of Love, we find that its energy is a genuinely beautiful act of holding space for another, exemplifying the true essence of what it means to Love without condition.

Being nice on the other hand requires an extra amount of energy in order to do it. Nice people will choose to do something that ends up using their energy for the sake of an agenda, which means there are strings attached. It is extrinsic in nature as it requires one or more reasons to provide it. This makes being nice unsustainable over time because the motivation behind it isn’t about generosity or Love. It’s literally a means to an end to control an outcome, person, situation, or behavior. Being nice inherently has a ceiling and definitely has an expiration date.

At the end of the day, being kind IS Love and it IS a choice. One thing is certain. When a person is kind, he or she isn’t just impacting the world. On a very down-to-earth level, it means the absolute world to the one who receives it.

Photo credit - Ann Tarazevich